Or Will He Just Love You and Run?

This is a series on how to tell if the man you are with really wants to be with you, or if he is just there for ulterior motives. Yes, he may be into you and just not know how to express how he feels to you, so you are here reading this to learn to read his signals. And believe me, there are many signals a man gives off when he cares and also when all he wants is another notch on the belt around his waist. They are not what you would expect either…

That being said, I would like you all to know that I have been through this. I know what both sides of the equation feels like. I do not want anyone else to have to suffer, which is why I write. So please… Read on…

You Finally Found the One…
You think you finally found the one guy you may want to spend the rest of your life with. You are happy, full of life, ecstatic even, and want to know… Is really that into being with you?

This is a question that simply must be answered if you are going to want to start trying to make plans for the one day when you both say “Hello” to the “Rest of your life” part of your lives together. So then, how DO you tell if he really is into being with you?

Tell ‘ya what…
I have a few tips for you to consider and a few questions for you to ponder. Maybe you will come up with the answer you need before you actually commit to the life changing decision we all dream of making.

How does he treat you on the phone?
Is he curt with his answers? Or does he like to sit and talk for awhile? Why does this matter? Well, a man knows how much a woman needs to talk on the phone so, if a man is really into you, they will talk until you want, or need, to hang up just to let you know that they are willing to tolerate your little quirks.

A man who does these sort of things is trying to show you how much he cares about making you happy. These are the kind of relationships that can last a very long time and are the kind of men that every woman wants to have around. Forever.

On the other hand, a man who says a quick little “Hi’ and a few “yeah” and “Uh-huh” and “mmh’s,” seeming like they are not even paying attention, or are only agreeing with you just to get you off the phone a lot faster than if they had had an actual conversation with you that means something. This is a sure signal that he wants nothing more to do with you than maybe a romp in the sack and a dinner or two before he splits.

See, the thing is, this type of man will always treat you right when you are out with him. This is because he doesn’t want you to have any kind of ammunition against him if and WHEN things break down between the to of you. This is the kind of man who cares more about the notches on the bedpost or his belt and his almighty “Rep” than being with you for the rest of “HIS” life. Get rid of him, lest you end up with a broken heart after you’ve become attached or emotionally vested. It’s not worth the BS.

A man will also talk on the phone if they are high maintenance, so watch out… Here’s how you can tell the difference between a man who is talking to you because they care of if they are talking to you because they are too clingy…

If they like to talk your ears off and you feel like you have to almost beg them just to hang up, or he has to call YOU more than once a day when you’re not together, then it can signal they he might be a bit clingy. High maintenance men are great, it means they take care of themselves (And Lord knows we need them to), as long as they’re not even more high maintenance than you are…